Recently reading a news post about the women dealing with secondary infertility issues and I thought the piece was more about the grief and the emotions that couples feel when they are able to have one child and then suffer through years of infertility which apparently has been labeled as secondary infertility? Learn something new everyday

The interesting thing about this particular article was actually the debate that it started up in the comment section. Quite a few people were actually offended by some of the subjects in the story who were couples that managed to have a first child with no problems what so ever and then for apparently no medical reason they go into a period of infertility or secondary infertility as they have labeled it. Honestly I really don’t care if you have had a child or two or three for that matter if you are actively trying to conceive a child and you go more than a year with out any results then you are having infertility issues.

The people that were getting upset in the comment section were wondering why the people who were blessed enough to give birth to a child were not just “happy with the child they were blessed with” instead of focusing all that emotional and financial energy into infertility treatments or surrogates in one case. I can see both sides of the argument of being grateful for what you have and then following your dreams of having a bigger family.

Then some people wanted to throw in the why don’t the people who are dealing with infertility just adopt there are so many children in the world who need a good home? I understand this debate as well.  Speaking from the perspective of a couple that went through our fair share of expensive IVF procedures and the emotional downs of miscarriage and the emotional joys of adopting our two kids

It’s just amazing to me how passionate people can get about both sides of infertility when I think there really is no debate when it comes to infertility. It is simply a terrible emotional roller coaster of a ride to be on as a couple that is just that. A personal emotional ride that the couple will have to decide what their next step will be whether it’s to keep pursuing the latest medical procedures or avenues involving adoption. The growth, extension or direction of a family is a personal adventure that only the people involved should be able to decide the future of.

Here is the link to the original story about secondary infertility issues leading to some obsessive decision making in their efforts to have a second child. Like I said the actual article and accompanying video are pretty good for the story but make sure you spend some time reading the comment section to get a feel for what I am talking about.